Sunday, November 21, 2010

A Very Special Day of the Year, November 21st

On this day 16 years ago, on a beach in Cozumel, I married my best friend and soul mate.


Time has definitely changed our appearance but our feelings have only grown stronger. Reflecting, we have had bumps, laughs, tears and lots of fun. I am truly blessed in my life.


We are like wine, we just keep getting better with age. Or, so we like to say that, to keep a positive outlook on aging. I pray that we continue to have fun and love life together for the next 50 years.

Another reason this date is exceptionally special is because it is the day we gave life to a beautiful set of twins. What a great anniversary gift. They were 5 weeks premature and had to spend seven days in NICU but we were blessed with healthy babies. Even scarier for us was how we were going to take care of them. They were so tiny and seemingly fragile.


Big Brother & Sisters were a tremendous help! I don’t know how we would have survived without them. They were nervous, anxious and a little jealous at the thought of us having another baby, let alone two at once!


But, the sibling bond began the second they heard two heartbeats. We all used to sit around the couch daily and the kids would take turns with the doppler on a hunt to find the twin’s heart beats.

The day the twins were born, all of my children were there. And, I will never forget something my Ob/Gyn said to me, after being introduced to my family and observing our interactions in the room, during labor. He told me he had never seen a bond like we had as a family and it was apparent how much we all loved each other and this was going to be a great day! He told me I was extremely blessed. Of course, it made me cry to receive the greatest compliment of my life.


It didn’t take us long to figure out how to take care of such a big family. Jeff and I found a balance between babies and teenagers and I think we did a pretty good job.

I cannot imagine what our lives would have been like if we had never made the choice to have another child. These twins have been a blessing to all of us. They make us laugh. They make us want to pull our hair out at times, well, actually a lot of the time. They keep us young and they keep us a tight family.

I have a couple of wishes and desires for my life. One would be for time to slow down. I do try to stop and smell the roses but it still just moves too fast. I cannot believe 8 years zoomed by so quickly.


A couple of days ago, a friend said to me, “you have a great life. It seems that everything you have ever tried to do, you have been successful and that you have never really had any hardships.” This comment made me really think about how he gathered that impression and then I realized what it was. Jeff and I both together and individually have had hardships. But I believe why my friend would perceive otherwise is because we have always chosen to look at the lighter side of like. If it was broken we fixed it but we didn’t let it ruin our day. If it wasn’t working, we changed it and if it still didn’t work, we changed it again.

So my other wish, is that all of my children grow into loving adults, husbands, wives & mothers and fathers. That they have a friend who would say to them, what my friend said to me. That they learn that loving and laughing is better than sulking and crying. And that they realize life is truly what you make of it!